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[akirschbaum81]

I'm curious about what others may say about this. When do you finally throw in the towel? I've been dealing with this issue for a year now and it isn't getting any better really. While I don't love my husband less, I DO feel differently about our relationship and his relationship with our children and this is something that he can't understand. He will not admit that he has an addiction, but has admitted to viewing "inappropriate" porn. I asked for a compromise that, admittedly, really wouldn't stop him. I asked him to limit his viewing to 1 hour and NO inappropriate porn and that he would tell me that he viewed it. He became indignant at the last one, but only because he felt I was censoring him and infringing on his right to look at whatever he wants. Despite this, he agreed to the terms. I also went a step further and told him that if I find anything (and I will, I have made sure of that) that goes against the terms, we would go to counseling. He agreed. However, he is not the sort to admit any wrongdoing. He is also not the sort to admit that he has overwhelming feelings about a person. He has told me before that he will change for no one and if anyone asks him to change, he will "give them their walking papers." I'm wondering when it is time to give him HIS "walking papers." When is enough really enough?